5 Lessons from Psycho-Cybernetics- Your success starts from your mind.
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- March 4, 2025
Is Your Mind Helping You Succeed- Or Holding You Back?
Be honest, Have you ever felt like no matter how hard you try success seems just out of reach? Maybe you set goals, push yourself, but deep down, there’s this nagging feeling that you’re not “that kind of person.”
Let me tell you what’s the problem here,it’s not external but – Your success starts in your subconscious mind shaped by beliefs you hold about yourself. . Your mind is running on autopilot, programmed by your past experiences, beliefs, and your self-image.
Now let’s talk about how you can reprogram your mind for success by reshaping the way you see yourselves with the help of this ground-breaking book Psycho-cybernetics by Dr. Maxwell Maltz. Let’s dive into some of the powerful lessons from this book that actually helped me a lot to shift from self-doubt to success mindset.
1. Your self-image is controlling your life. (Even if you don't realize it)
Think about this: if you see yourself as a “shy person”, how will you act in social situations? Awkward, reserved, avoiding eye-contact right?
Now imagine seeing yourself as a confident and charismatic person. You speak up naturally, smile and engage without second guessing yourself.
The big lesson:
Your self-image is the base, or foundation upon which your entire personality, your behaviors, feelings, even your circumstances are built. If you don’t upgrade it you’ll revert back to the same old patterns.
Here's How to change it:
- Remind yourself of your small victories– In order to direct your inner control system towards success instead of failure, all you need is one experience that made you feel good about yourself. So next time you feel like a failure- remind yourself of your small successes you had in past.
2. Your Subconscious mind believes whatever you tell it.
If you keep telling yourself, “I always fail”, your brain will find ways to prove you right. Know that your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between a real experience and an imagined one.
The big lesson:
Your brain is like a super powerful GPS-it follows whatever directions you give it. You act and feel, not according to what things are really like, but according to the image your mind holds of what they are like.
You have certain mental images of yourself, your world, and the people around you and you behave as though these images were the truth, the reality, rather than the things they represent. So, to create a life that you truly desire you need to start feeding your mind with positive and success driven thoughts.
Here's How to reprogram it:
- Use mental rehearsal: Close your eyes and spend 5 minutes daily to visualize your ideal self- achieving your goals. Feel it, hear it and see it. See yourself acting, feeling, “being,” as you want to be.
- Repeat success affirmations: Say yourself positive things like “I am confident and courageous.”
- Relax and meditate: A calm mind is easier to reprogram. Try deep breathing or meditation to access your subconscious. Allow positive energy to enter as you exhale the negative.
3. You can acquire the habit of happiness.
It is believed that happiness is related to human mind and its physical machine. We think better, perform better, feel better, and are healthier when we are happy. Happiness isn’t something that just “happens” when your life goes well. It’s a habit- one that you can build just like any other.
The big lesson:
Most people think that they’ll be happy once they achieve success. But here’s the truth: it’s the opposite, happiness is a habit, and it flows with how you train your mind and achieve success. The same way you develop a habit of brushing your teeth, you can develop a habit of seeing good in life, feeling gratitude and experiencing joy daily.
Here's How to build a habit of happiness:
- Practice “happy moments” daily– Everyday take a moment to recall your happy memories. Relive past experience and be write three things you are grateful for. This rewires your brain to focus on what’s going well and attract more happiness.
- Smile more (purposefully) – studies shows that smiling (even when you don’t feel like it) send a positive signals to your brain and trick it into feeling happy.
- Stop chasing happiness– if you keep saying “I’ll be happy when I get that job, lose weight, or make more money” you’ll be chasing happiness. Choose to be happy today.
4. Failure is just a feedback- not your identity.
Have you ever failed at something and thought, ”maybe I’m just not good enough” you’re not alone. Most people take failure personally, believing it defines them. But here’s the truth- failure is simply feedback- it’s your mind’s way of saying, ‘adjust your approach’.
The big lesson:
Your brain is a goal – seeking mechanism. It learns through trial and error. The only real failure is giving up. Always remember your mistakes don’t define you. They refine you. Every mistake gets you one step closer to success.
Here's How to turn failures into success:
- Reframe failures as lessons– instead of saying, “I failed”, say, “what can I learn from this?”
- Try again with adjustments– if one approach doesn’t work, tweak it and try again. Growth happens in the process..
5. Emotional scars can hold you back- you need to heal them.
There might be times when you were told that you’re not good enough, even sometimes your appearance made you feel unworthy or rejected. Then the feeling of love easily transforms into frustrations, resentment or rudeness towards others.
This is nothing but you building emotional wall to protect yourselves which drives your loved ones away from you leaving you feel more lonely and unworthy. This is what we say emotional scars which are shaping your behavior into someone you are not.
The big lesson:
Your past pain or unresolved emotions can create a distorted self- image which eventually shapes your behavior and can silently sabotage your success. You can reprogram yourself by releasing these emotional scars through forgiveness, self- compassion and new mental patterns to help heal your self-image.
Here's How to release your emotional scars:
- Identify your triggers and practice self-compassion– Identify the situations that make you feel insecure or unworthy. Understand that these often point to unresolved wounds. In this situation, stop beating yourself up, and talk to yourself like a supportive friend.
- Let go of the past– visualize yourself cutting ties to past pain. Picture a lighter, freer version of you moving forward and achieving the happiness in your life..
You don’t need more external motivation or resources- everything you need is already within you. By reshaping your self-image and training your subconscious mind, you can unlock unlimited potential. I know it won’t happen overnight, but with small changes you make today will create a huge impact over time.
Your success mindset starts with the way you see yourself. Change that, and you’ll change your entire life. If you want to read other books to help develop a success mindset: Here’s my 5 book recommendations to help you develop a success mindset.
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